NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming)

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I am a certified Practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming registered with the American Board of NLP.
NLP focusses on how our brains are programmed and the links in us between language, our senses and how we experience life. The result of this is the development of whole set of tools and techniques that we can use to empower a person to achieve greater success and happiness in all areas of life.

I use NLP in a therapeutic, love coaching  way, to help people to change their feelings, thoughts, beliefs and behaviours for the better. Yet NLP can be applied to business, health and well-being, counselling and therapy, relationships, sport, training and education, negotiation, leadership, presentation skills, goal setting etc. It is all about how to run your brain to achieve the results you desire and it offers a means by which people can achieve goals and better communicate.

Understanding NLP
NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) explains how we process information coming to us from the world around us. An external event occurs and we experience it through our different senses.

  • visual
  • auditory
  • kinesthetic (feeling)
  • olfactory (smell)
  • gustatory (taste)

Different people use some senses much more fully than others and so they create a unique experience for themselves.Before we make an internal representation of the event (using our senses) we then do the following…
We Delete – when we selectively (and unconsciously) pay attention to some aspects of our experience and not to others.
We Distort – when we make shifts in our experience of our sensory data by making either misrepresentations of reality or making it mean something about ourselves or the world that isn’t necessarily true. Maybe we think we are being ignored and then we take it to mean that someone doesn’t like/love us or that we are unlovable.
We Generalise – when we draw global conclusions based on one or more experiences. Maybe our first partner leaves us and then we expect every partner to do the same thing.

It’s my responsibility to draw attention to when you are deleting, distorting or generalising about your experiences. By becoming aware of this you’ll have access to other ways of interpret events that happen in your life and thus of changing your experience.

The tools of NLP also allow for understanding what ‘strategies’ (exact methods) people have for creating their own problems.

  • For example some people visualise all the possible things that can go wrong. Others tell themselves that they are stupid and will never get things right. Usually people create a combination of unique steps in the process of creating a problem yet they are totally unaware of this. When these strategies are brought to conscious awareness in therapy then it allows the client to get themselves above the vicious circle of the symptoms of the problem that keep reinforcing having the problem and it is from this viewpoint that changes can be made that impact at a deep level.
  • Another tool of NLP, which can help clients, is to understand ‘anchoring’ of feelings. Often in life certain words, certain people, certain looks on a person’s face can trigger us to feel a specific way that isn’t really anything to do with the present moment. In the therapy these anchored negative feelings are either deleted or overwritten.

NLP & Parts Therapy

  • NLP also helps us to explore when people’s minds split off into parts, when you’re not working as a whole integrated person of one mind, when you find yourself fighting or undermining yourself despite your best intentions.

When you find yourself using any of these phrases, it confirms that this is the case;

  • ‘Well, a part of me thinks/feels this way’
  • ‘But part of me can’t let go, even though I want to.’
  • ‘On the one hand I think this, on the other hand I think that’
  • ‘I am in two minds about whether I should do this’.
  • ‘A part of me wants this and the other part doesn’t.’

NLP offers us the technique of Parts Integration.

  • Parts integration allows the mind to get back into a situation of working as one whole, which leads to easier decision making and making it natural to follow through on those decisions because there is no longer a part of you wanting something else.

Overall NLP is a very powerful way of changing the way we think, feel and experience the world and ourselves so that we can have the results we want in our lives.